Are You Sensitive or Avoidant?

I promised a couple entries ago (link: Personality Styles vs Disorders, part 1) that I would be providing additional information about the differentiation between personality styles and personality disorders with consideration for the idea that personality exists on a continuum. First up: “Sensitive” as a personality style.

A person identifying as sensitive may have some or all of the following traits and individualized needs:

  • Familiarity: a preference for the “known”; habit, routine and overall predictability are sources of comfort
  • Concern: a significant care for how others perceive them
  • Circumspection/carefulness/watchfulness: avoidance of making quick judgments and a tendency toward deliberate and thought-out behavior
  • Politeness: heightened awareness of demonstrating social restraint and maintaining composure
  • Role: a need to know what is expected of them (predictability) and how they are intended to relate to others in the context of vocation, leisure and interpersonally
  • Privacy: hesitation when sharing intimate feelings with others despite having an established connection  (Oldham & Morris 1995)

While the personality traits of a Sensitive individual may not be significantly limiting, they do likely impact the person and his or her relationships, work habits and social behaviors.

On the opposite, or more extreme, end of the “sensitivity spectrum” is Avoidant Personality Disorder.

20160808_161240.jpg

The chart below features common traits for a person with Sensitive Personality type with corresponding criteria that characterizes Avoidant Personality Disorder. Notice how the Avoidant descriptions on the right side are more intense and potentially pathological versions (ICD-10, 1992).

Sensitive Avoidant
Prefers familiarity Persistent, pervasive feelings of tension and apprehension
Concern for opinion of others Belief he/she is personally unappealing or inferior to others
Carefully avoids making judgments Excessive, often debilitating worry that one will be criticized and rejected in social situations
Politeness/social constraint Frequent avoidance of social encounters for fear of not being accepted or liked
Role (prefers to know what’s expected of them) Intense panic/nervousness when expectations for role or behavior aren’t clear
Prefers keeping feelings and concerns private Avoidance of intimacy and close personal relationships due to fear of rejection

Oldham, J. M., Morris, L. B., & Oldham, J. M. (1995). The new personality self-portrait: Why you think, work, love, and act the way you do. New York: Bantam Books.

The ICD-10 classification of mental and behavioural disorders: Clinical descriptions and diagnostic guidelines. (1992). Geneva: World Health Organization.

High-Functioning Anxiety: Slipping Under the “Anxiety Radar”, Perfectionism

High Functioning Anxiety

In my previous entry, I wrote about anxiety–pros and cons, types, and goal-setting for symptom management. I currently have therapy clients, family members, and friends in the midst of “seasons of transition” (moving, pregnancy, beginning a new job, starting college, etc.), and ANXIETY is a hot topic as a result.

Below is the link to an article from The Mighty, a resource outlining the everyday struggles and triumphs of people living with disability, mental illness, and/or chronic illness. The report features High Functioning Anxiety–a subcategory of anxiety.

Compared to other types, high-functioning anxiety (HFA, for the sake of my slow typing) is a different ballgame: often it’s undetected by parents, teachers, and peers as the individual can be high-achieving, academically successful, have above-average social skills, and maintain consistent employment.

I’ve had the opportunity to work with a variety of clients I would place into this category–I love working with HFA clients to learn how unique perspectives in achievement and life add to the person’s present level of functioning. In addition, HFA individuals are generally highly invested clients on my caseload and very motivated to work during time dedicated to therapy.

Check the article out for yourself:

http://themighty.com/2016/06/living-with-high-functioning-and-hidden-anxiety/

Opportunity: The Bridge

I love the concept of bridges. Bridges are designed to bear great weight, weather conditions, and can span great distances between one piece of land to the next.

Bridges can pose a great threat as an imposing structure; however, they can also serve as a powerful symbol of connection, transition, and growth. 

A person overwhelmed with his or her circumstances may view a bridge as an obstacle rather than an opportunity. As a professional counselor, my role is to help clients to view their circumstances in a different light over time–to accept and commit to the idea that throughout life we make a series of decisions about who or where we want to be.

If crossing a bridge is intimidating and full of “unknowns”, I would love to begin a counseling journey with you. I’ve decided to feature the image below as a symbol of my counseling practice, and hope that we can join forces to cross life’s bridges together.

For more information, please contact me HERE.

cropped-GGB-baker-beach-e1546382832930